As I grow older, the thing I appreciate most about maturity is that it provides perspective. When we are younger, we’re unaware that we don’t know much of anything and every new experience seems like it’s the greatest thing to ever happen to us. “Keep on livin’.” That’s always been one of my mother’s favorite things to tell my siblings and I. She told me that the first time I thought I loved a girl, the first time I bought a car and repeatedly the first (and only) time I got my heart broke. I’m better for listening to her.
Lately I’ve been enjoying the discovery of new perspectives and in turn learned that there’s so much value in embracing your duality. Society tries to place people in one box but that doesn’twork when we’ve got multiple senses and endless emotions that we’re blessed with. Of course I’m a husband and father first, but I was Terrance Charles Lee before I was either of those. I work in finance by day and entrepreneurship consumes many of my evenings. I was still T. Lee before I ever had a job. I no longer reside less than one minute from David W. Carter High School, but Oak Cliff is forever home to my first fight, first kiss, first day of school and first Christmas.
When we forget that there’s room for duality in all of our lives, it often replaces our essence. If I forget all the things that made me, I’ll never make it. Tina needs me to love on her just as much as I lust for her. Tyrin needs me to teach him how to be a man just as much as I need him to teach me patience. Niggas could possibly have me fucked up just as much as they need to be reminded that Cynthia ain’t raise no hoe. In closing, a lot of y’all can stop saying you’re bi-polar now, you just been fake IDing duality.