I can’t write this letting anger win, not on the first beautiful Dallas day we’ve had in weeks. Not on Women’s Day. It’s not a 3:30 service attached to it, but let’s praise the queens today. I’mgonna try my best to do it my way despite that derivative emotion lingering.
I haven’t been able to listen to the opening line of my favorite Prince song the same way since he passed on. I guess I should’ve known, by the way you parked your car sideways, that it wouldn’t last . . .
Whether your introduction to Black music was Andre Crouch on the way to church on Sundays, your grandmother’s Etta James record collection, or learning to play the bassline of Mr. Pookie’s Crook for Life on the piano of your elementary school music room, celebrate #BlackMusicMonth with us. For the Culture.
So if you know me you know I’m a reader, love reading articles and I always have a Cosmo on my night stand. I ran across an article called “My Life as a Sugar Baby” now I have heard the term and knew what it was but wasn’t clear so I kept reading. The article was about a 24 year old divorcee with two kids, a gay ex-husband and baby was broke! I thought to myself wow this sounds like me, I’m 24 only one kid and an ex, he’s not gay so not quite like me but you know, I found myself relating. She went on to say how she didn’t want another regular relationship or dating experience (in my head I’m like preach sister). As I started to read the next few lines I found myself a little wide eyed, “My first Sugar Daddy I ever had was from New York.”
Now we all have heard of the term Sugar Daddy, we probably know someone who has one, hell we’ve probably thought of finding one and quitting our jobs (maybe that one is just me HA)! But seriously, what was new to me was how legit Sugar Babies seemed to be. These women are professional Sugar Babies for RICH and I mean RICH Sugar Daddies. They get monthly allowances, have blogs, community chat rooms or forums and not to mention conferences and summits on how to be a Sugar Baby!
The first thought I had was what about her kids and her family, this lifestyle is clearly not a secret! My next thought may surprise you and will probably be a nonfeminist thing to say but I was like hey, she’s about the money, she’s young and seeing the world. Not only that but it’s honest, intentions are clear on both ends. Would I engage in such an arrangement probably NOT but can I knock another woman’s hustle… Hell no! All I can say is make that money girl don’t let it make you! GOOD People what do yall think about Sugar Babies?! Are you one (men that includes you), do you know one? Hit me up on Twitter @MsTaylorAlexis and let me know your thoughts!
#STAYMADABBY: IT'S NOT JUST HER THOUGH
We all know about the controversial case surrounding the privileged agenda of Abigail Fisher. Fisher's prejudice and ignorance is only the most current example in this country's history of demeaning the value of non-whites, but let's not pretend it's rare. Let's not pretend that there are many who agree with her senseless entitlement. GOOD people be very aware that this happens to all of us. Education is often used as a metric for human respect across all cultures. Our very own people are much quicker to respect the graduates who attend UT as opposed to those headed to PV or other HBCUs. Entitlement and privilege, in my opinion, is the most dangerous form of prejudice we face today. I base that opinion of the belief that those traits lead to classism. Classism is defined as prejudice against or in favor of people belonging to a particular social class. As we progress as a people, we often make the mistake of thinking that those who don't achieve the same status as ourselves are less deserving and less important to our society and culture. In order for us to fight our best fight against the external hate we endure daily, we must unite under a common cause which is to uplift us all. I was proud to see the responses and opinions shared on #BlackSocialMedia that highlighted our own institutions as well as lauded those who thrive at PWIs. This thing is bigger than an unqualified white woman wanting to have something she doesn't deserve at our expense. It's about us no longer tolerating their superiority complex adversely affecting us in all walks of life.
HAS THE EMOJI CHANGED THE WAY WE DATE?
I had a conversation with some of my close single friends yesterday. I was taking little part in the majority of the discussion until emojis became the topic. I was given a lesson in emoji interpretation from both a male and female (ladies don't trip...I literally could not make sense of any word besides females here) perspective. Apparently, emoji interpretation can be the foundation for a successful date or it can be the doom of a relationship. I was laughing at it all but I am curious. The upside down smiley face can mean so many things? The shades wearing smiley can get you caught up? The purple devil can be code for what? All this is being said around me and I'm just in disbelief. Is a strong emoji game really that important to talk to somebody?
On this Thanksgiving Day, don't eat so much of Pattie's pie that you forget what this day is about in our culture. Family. The food that we consume on the fourth Thursday of November is honestly not much different than the food a lot of us eat on most Sundays. The special ingredient is the people you are enjoying your meal with. It's grandmama's smile on the selfie you take with her. It's your uncle's FUBU jersey. It's your cousin's baby mama dropping off that gorgeous little girl that has dimples that make you reconsider how bad she really is. It's the Cowboys winning or losing you twenty dollars. It's that same twenty being lost on the dice game behind the garage. Turkey, dressing, yams, greens and cobbler comes around every year and can be bought as you please. However, you only get so many of these special feelings with these special people, so be patient when you're showing your aunt how to milly rock. Be thankful good people.